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Tooth Fairy Letter #2

Over the years, my daughters have had a private correspondence with a very special  . . . um, being.  These are personal and sensitive messages that, until recently, have been secreted in a shoebox under the bed.  We think, perhaps, that enough time has passed.  Please be gentle with them.

Tooth Fairy Letter #2, Found May 28, 2005


Dear Emma,

Congratulations! You finally lost that second tooth!

And you pulled it out yourself this time! That was very brave.  Wow!  I guess you don’t need anybody (like your teacher) to bump into you anymore. You can take care of this stuff yourself.

Emma, it sure is taking a long time for me to get them, but I just love your teeth!!  I’m so excited!  They have such powerful magic in them!   They are SO worth the wait.  By the time I get them, your teeth are literally overflowing with sparkling powerful magic!

I know I left some (sparkly) money for you, but because I’m getting so much from you with each tooth, I still feel like I owe you something.  They are just so valuable.  You don’t need to tell anybody this, but just one of your teeth has as much magic as 10 of the teeth I normally collect from kids.

So . . .

Can you keep a secret?

Remember what I told you last time about what makes a tooth magical? Age, Health, and Goodness? Well your teeth are so magical because they are high in all three of these things.

Keep up the good work!

And now for the secret . . .

Let me tell you a little bit about what I do with the teeth I get.

A lot of people get confused about this. Some people think I use them like bricks and build magical white castles (snicker).  Some people think I collect them in jars and just save them (he he).  Well (ahem), I don’t do either of those things.

(Where do people get these crazy ideas?)

Want to know what I really do with them?

I grind them up.

Yep.  I know.  Maybe that sounds strange.  But it’s true.  I grind them up into a really fine powder.

Actually I grind them up so much that I make a light powdery dust.

Tooth dust.

It’s really pretty cool.  But that’s not the coolest part.  Tooth dust by itself is . . . well, to be honest–it’s worthless.  It’s worthless, that is, until I add another special secret ingredient that I get from some friends of mine.

I’m running out of room here, so I’ll just say that the two ingredients alone don’t really do much.  But when mixed together . . . WOWY ZOWY and PRESTO!


If you’re a good secret keeper, I’ll tell you the other ingredient next time. But for now, just keep being the wonderful little girl that you are. You are truly a magical, wonderful child. And I love you.


The Tooth Fairy

Tooth Fairy Letter #1

Over the years, my daughters have had a private correspondence with a very special  . . . um, being.  These are personal and sensitive messages that, until recently, have been secreted in a shoebox under the bed.  We think, perhaps, that enough time has passed.  Please be gentle with them.

Tooth Fairy Letter #1, Found December 23, 2004


Dear Emma,

Congratulations! You finally lost that tooth!

What a relief!  Do you feel any differently now that you’ve lost it?

Like a lot of things growing up, losing a tooth can be a little scary.  For you, I’m sure it probably felt like it took FOR-EV-ER.  When your just a young girl, a lot of things feel like that.  I know that most of your friends have already lost a few teeth. Don’t feel badly because you’ve only lost one so far. There are three things that make teeth special to me—and this tooth has all of them. This is a very magical tooth and I’m glad to have it. Do you want to know what those three things are?

  1. Age:  The older a tooth is, the more time it has had to soak in all of the good magic that you create.
  2. Health:  A good, strong, white, pearly tooth always holds more magic than teeth that are starting to decay.
  3. Goodness:  A tooth from the mouth of a good child always has more powerful magic within.  The kinder the child, the stronger the magic.  You’re a very loving and caring kid, Emma.  So, naturally, your tooth is super-duper strong–and has lots of magic inside of it.

Emma, I’ll explain more about the magic, and what I do with your teeth later (probably next time you lose a tooth), but for now just know that you are a very special girl.  You have within you lots and lots of love.  This means that you also have very special teeth. Magical teeth.  Powerful teeth.

So keep on being that wonderful, unique girl that you are.  Keep taking care of those teeth. I love you very much.  Thank you for letting me have your first tooth.  It will help me to do a lot of good.


The Tooth Fairy

The Tooth Fairy

Parent Communication Revisited

The other day I posted an exchange I had with a parent about farting. Today I follow that up with another interesting, though not nearly as outrageous exchange. One thing to note this time around is that although I emailed Dad’s email address (like last time), Mom was the one who replied. There is a clear difference in tone between their styles of communication.

Aside from that, I guess what I”m learning here is that for some people/parents, you really need to spell it all out.

So without further ado, my original email, followed by Mother’s reply, followed by me again:

Hi F…,

I wanted to let you know that the farting has stopped for now. Thanks for your help with that. But now there’s a new issue. We are currently reading Treasure Island and B… has lost his book. From my perspective that’s fine. That sort of thing happens and I always work with a student until they either find it or pay for it.

However, B…’s solution to this problem was, not to come to me, but to steal another classmate’s book this morning.

It would be great if you could reinforce that this is not acceptable.



Mom’s reply:

Mr. Wondra,

We have discussed this with B…., he did NOT steal a book from another student, but did take another one from the classroom. If this was another student’s he was not aware of this and did not have any intention of stealing another students book. He will pay for the one he has lost. Please let him know the cost to replace the lost book and this will be taken care of.

B…. does not steal things from others and I resent your accusations.



My response (notice the increased level of formality),

Mrs. F….

I’m sorry that you feel resentment. I guess I can accept that B… believes he took a book from the room without the intention of stealing. His explanation to you is interesting, however. The book that he took, was N…S…’s. He found it, sitting with all of her other Language Arts materials, at her seat and on top of her Language Arts binder. She had stepped out of the room for a moment leaving her materials unattended. When she came back into the room, she was very surprised to find her book missing.

Please understand that there are not Treasure Island books just lying around the room. Each student is assigned one book and is responsible for that book.

If you like, perhaps “steal” is too strong a word. Perhaps “took” or “borrowed without asking” would be more appropriate. Maybe he did truly intend to return it to her. In either case, because I highly value parent/teacher communication, I feel it’s important that I share with you behavior that you, as a parent, may or may not want to deal with.

I’m just sharing with you what I see. I do the same for all my students and their parents. Please understand that from my perspective I don’t “accuse.” That would require interpretation. I am only sharing my observations. Feel free to interpret and react (or not react) to those observations in whatever way you feel appropriate. I have kids myself and honestly believe we are all in this together.

From my perspective, the bottom line is that you talked to B…. about this, and I appreciate that. And as far as the lost book itself is concerned, B….. told me this morning that he found it in his locker.


Mr. Wondra

Now, I have to be honest with you. That comment, “I resent your accusations,” raised my hackles a bit. While I didn’t feel my original communication was accusatory, or attacking in any way, I’m a parent so I can empathize with that interpretation. Nobody likes to hear that their kid is behaving inappropriately. Still, sometimes they really do need to hear about it.

So, in keeping with my life’s purpose to become more conscious, I tried to remove my ego and its defense from the situation. What’s left is only information without emotion, attachment, or expectation.

So that’s what I was shooting for. Is what resulted an example of projecting more consciousness into the world? I don’t know. Either way, it felt pretty good to me.

Still, understanding the nature of things, I’ve been cc’ing my principal every communication I have with these parents. I figure if I’m doing something inappropriate myself, she’ll let me know. This morning I got this little thank-you note in my box from her:

Thanks for being in touch with your parents on a regular basis and communicating with them in such a positive manner. You do a nice job with this.

I also appreciate being notified when the situation demands such.


I’ll tell you what. Regardless of any situation or outcome. As a professional, it sure is nice to have support.